TO SPEAKING TO YOUR CHILD AND BEING HEARD!
Treat your child as you would a dear friend:
- Make eye contact. Speak only if within touching distance.
Stoop down and lay a respectful hand on your child’s
forearm, or hold hands.
- Use a calm, respectful tone of voice.
- Get some privacy to discuss behavior when in a group.
- Take responsibility for your part. We are partners in
all the mistakes children make.
- Try to see your child’s point of view.
- Make sure the message of love gets through.
- Focus on the 80 % that is positive.
- Get rid of the idea that in order to make a child do better,
first you have to make her feel worse.
- Own your problem and ask for help to solve it.
- Listen to your child’s side without interrupting.
- Use words and attitudes that you would with a friend.
- Encourage by acknowledging every effort, whether successful
- Try the unexpected, give your child a hug, when they are
the most unlovable.